Big Boys Don't Cry (2020) User Reviews

Please don't ignore this film

[mdm-15068 · 9/10 · 24 December 2022]

This is not the kind of movie you'd watch for family entertainment but it is the kind of movie that everyone needs to see. It's the harrowing story of Paul Connelly and the abuse he and others suffered at the hands of evil men in the 1970's.

The lead actor, Michael Socha, gives the performance of his career so far and the young lads that play Paul and Liam as kids are also impressive. In fact all the cast come out of this with credit.

The movie also shows us parts of Pauls life that he's probably not proud of but the overriding factor of the film is to show how such atrocities can mess with a victims mind.

Well done to all concerened with this, especially Paul who must have had a few dark nights recounting his experiences whilst working on this.

An example of how Not to write dialogue

[chris-568-920686 · 4/10 · 26 July 2023]

I'm sorry, I hardly ever write a negative review because as an aspiring filmmaker I know how much time, effort and money people put into independent productions, but it has to be said this a great opportunity missed.

I feel sorry for the two leads as I've seen them before and know how natural and talented they are at acting, but it goes to prove you can't outact a badly written script.

The dialogue is cheap and corny and as a person who came from this background I can tell you this is not authentic in the slightest. I don't know for sure but I can only assume the director and writer did not come from this background and tried to make a project about a subject that they knew nothing about.

It's full of cliches and grinding repetitive cutaways in a desperate attempt to create artistic symbolism. You will know what I mean when you watch it.

The movie has huge pacing issues too and jumps back and forth between past and present for reasons best know to no-one except the writer. An experienced script supervisor would have been money well spent on this production and more money spent in the sound design as overall it the lack of it makes everything seem bland and boring.

Overall it comes down to bad direction from a badly written script. Hopefully they can learn from their mistakes for their next production. But then again they got it on Netflix, so what do I know 😊

A powerful film that must be seen

[sara_sheldon · 9/10 · 24 October 2022]

This true story tells a difficult subject that is painful yet compelling to watch. From the opening scene it is difficult to take your eyes of this film that holds nothing back depicting the savage way institutions back in the day we're allowed to abuse there positions on looking after young children. It is not an easy watch but then a true story of such savage consequences never are. The film shows however the strength of a young boy who against all odds survives and able to bring this to life on the big screen. Fantastic performances by the leading actors with a great support cast including a young Paul.

Powerful and Beautifully acted.

[Leachy1977 · 9/10 · 28 December 2022]

Michael Socha deserves an Oscar for this performance. He makes you feel every bit of the character he's portraying and the unheard voices of those he's not. The performance is incredible. The film doesn't drag whilst it gives an insight into the character and the many layers to a troubled character. It explores a very harrowing theme in a way that is hard to watch, but ultimately a must see for audiences everywhere. I am sure many watching will be able to relate, as I was, to the harsh environments of the 70's and 80's that have not been talked about enough. However, the mistreatment of children in care still occurs today. On a large scale.

Emotionally devastating

[rachelsmithliverpool · 9/10 · 28 December 2022]

This film killed me.

The topics discussed in this film are not for the light hearted. However, saying that it is a topic that needed to be discussed. Events like this happen and we need to be aware of that. The acting In this film was extremely powerful and the kid actors did a fantastic job. I felt extremely uncomfortable at times which was exactly how I think I was supposed to feel.

If you watch this film beware that this is based on a true story and this is something that can really have an impact on you. This is a film that will stay with me for a while, and one that should. A sad story that people should know about.

A powerful story that needed to be told

[spencer-fenton · 10/10 · 14 September 2022]

This is a film, based on the real life story of Paul Connolly, that powerfully depicts how adults in authority abused young children throughout their childhood in a local children's home.

The production team did an amazing job in taking us back to the late 1970's and highlighting the horrors that Paul, his best friend Liam and the other kids in their dorm went through.

The cast and crew have delivered a chilling version of Paul's story and its unbelievable how this abuse continues behind closed doors in 2022.

I had the honour of going to the film premier in Chelmsford, Essex where Paul and the executive producer Richard Hart held a meet and greet Q & A afterwards.

We were given an insight into the demons that Paul carries with every single day. He explains that love from his wife and children have helped him deal with them on a daily basis but that they never disappear.

The message is made loud and clear and good luck to the children charities trying to help 100's of kids going through the same abuse on a daily basis.

Heart Breaking

[lisa-oreilly74 · 10/10 · 17 January 2023]

This film literally broke my heart. Its portrayed in an incredible way that opens you up to a deeper understanding with regards to the mental scars left by atrocious acts such as these against children.

I cannot imagine what it was like for these children, children that had no one else in the entire world to care for them. Abused physically, mentally & sexually. The things that these disgusting carers (a far cry from) made them believe, things they took into their later lives.

The sentence for such things should be undoubtedly increased. Crimes against children should be met with the death penalty and nothing less.

I commend you Paul, for being able to shine a light on this.

Sending love to you and your family.

Harrowing watch but brilliantly done

[N-whymark · 10/10 · 1 January 2023]

Gritty drama based on a true story of child abuse in a childrens home in the 70s and 80s. Jacko as a damaged man shows how his childhood has affected him as an adult but how things can turn around.

Acting was superb. At times upsetting to watch and heart breaking scenes .

The filming was brilliant. Unfortunately more and more cases of historic child abuse are being reported .

Paul Connolly aka Jacko is a brave man telling his story and helping others as a result. Am so glad his outcome was different than many others and he had had the chance to lead a life worthy of him . He deserves a huge hug.

A Story That Needed To Be Told

[franwatkins · 10/10 · 1 January 2023]

Big Boys Don't Cry is a very well acted and documented story of the abuse of young boys in a children's home over a number of years. As I live in Essex I remember when this came out and is a story that needed to be told. The story centres around Paul (played by Michael Socha - who was superb playing Paul). Well filmed as does not glorify the abuse suffered - leaves it to your imagination to picture what those young boys suffered. One victim was only five years of age. Great to see that Paul was able to turn his life around and is now married with two children. Would highly recommend this fantastic film.

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[tonitrish · 10/10 · 11 March 2023]

This was one of the most difficult and hard hitting films that I've ever watched. The cast was fantastic but WOW, Michael Socha as adult Paul was absolutely bloody amazing. This is an 18 rated movie and I really think that this should be brought down as as uncomfortable as this film was to watch I believe that youngsters of today, even those in the system should see this and know what others have been through and should not be written off in life because of the choices they make in later life due to such horrific abuse. I'm so glad I watched to the end and saw the "real life Paul" and his story in the credits. I hope he feels that this has told his story as brutally honest as it was and that he finally, if possible, gets some form of closure. I wish him nothing but love and happiness. X.

Deeply Powerful and Distressing in equal measure

[InnerWisdom1000 · 9/10 · 13 March 2024]

This is an extremely difficult but I think necessary watch. It depicts the horror of abject physical, mental, and emotional violence, and abuse, torture and evil neglect on innocent children in a care home. It is extremely hard-hitting and pulls no punches in the recounting of Paul Connolly's story.

Michael Socha gave an exemplary performance in his portrayal of the tragic childhood that Paul endured and his nightmares in adulthood as a survivor dealing with lifelong trauma that can only ever be managed but never cured.

The director was superb in showing the viewer the resilience that Paul was able to find amidst his pain, tremendously helped by the love of his wife to be, who took the time to listen and understand and for which kindness, empathy and love can move mountains.

I wept when she hugged him as this may well have been the first time he had ever been given tenderness of any kind. From that point onwards he was able to be safely vulnerable and tell his story.

Thank You Paul for doing so and shedding light to that part of mankind that must NEVER remain hidden...