The Swedish Theory of Love (2015) User Reviews

Interesting for an immigrant in Sweden, explains a lot

[scissorbits · 8/10 · 27 October 2016]

There is a niche audience for this film- it is the new immigrant to Sweden. I myself have been living in Sweden now for 5 years and I have suffered extreme loneliness since moving here. Many foreigners will agree that it's extremely difficult to make new friends in Sweden and acclimatize to the social isolation. This film clarified the cultural significance of this phenomenon within a historical context. It answered such questions as: Why do most people not know their neighbors? Why does it feel so isolating compared to my homeland? Why does nobody talk about how strange it all seems? How did it become this way?

I can understand why this wouldn't be interested to a.) someone who doesn't live in Sweden or b.) a Swede who was raised here and sees it as business as usual.

But since I have wondered about all this for some time, it was elucidating.

I don't agree with the contrast between Sweden and Ethiopia, however. In the film, Ethiopia is described to be poor in wealth but rich in community, while Sweden is financially wealthy yet socially barren. Societies in such countries as Ethiopia have complex social systems which are restricting in their own ways and should not be romanticized as utopian.

The masturbation scene will sadly not allow me to show this to my parents, since they are old and prudish. Just a fair warning if you want to show this to your old and prudish parents too.

A peek into the 'real' Sweden

[Wordsmith · 7/10 · 14 November 2016]

Let me say this first: I'm not a big fan of documentaries, because I watch movies to be immersed in a different world, away from 'real life'. In general fiction and romanticized movies only appear to do the trick for me.

Having said this, I find it quite intriguing that some reviewers have issues with this documentary's depth and (lack of) opinion. Why a documentary should have this eludes me. Wikipedia has a rather simple description of a documentary: "a nonfictional motion picture intended to document some aspect of reality, primarily for the purposes of instruction, education, or maintaining a historical record".

That is what this documentary does do, without an enormous pain of an opinion. To me it tells a story about a highly sophisticated society which has issues most people don't know about and most Swedes don't care much about. Maybe it's just me - that I didn't know this yet - but I thought it quite educational. I live in a country that also prides itself for it's high level of individualism (Holland), but I think the Swedes gave that a whole new dimension, with a downside called isolation. One idea that particularly stuck with me is that (a high level of) certainty leads to boredom. The apparent emptiness in many shots showed this rather subtly and in general I thought the music nicely added to some of the statements made.

All in all, it may not be the best documentary made, but it is a peek into the real Sweden, which mostly gets overlooked. As another reviewer said, I think it would be wise to first watch this movie before deciding to move to the promised land, called Sweden.

Very helpful

[januszkiewiczadrian · 8/10 · 16 October 2019]

In an accessible way, it shows that absolute individuality is not the way to happiness and how important social ties are.

Fascinating and close to home.

[niels_de_vos · 9/10 · 26 July 2017]

This documentary fascinated me from start to finish. I really liked the edit and the music. The documentary has a nice tempo and never a dull moment.

Watching this documentary gave me a few nice insights. The quest in the west to gain as much freedom as possible has gone too far. We gain the freedom by distancing ourselves from other people. We can do this because we are less and less dependent on relatives and our local community. With the wealth we got in the West we can buy the things we need. For example, old people no longer depend on their children, but on professional services (which we pay for).

People also tend to take the easiest and most comfortable way of doing things. It's way more comfortable to be with yourself and don't be bothered by others (This is something that hits  close to home). With others you'll get criticism, change of rejection and you'll get discussions. It's also more comfortable to have shallow relationships on social media than to expose yourself to somebody in real life.

Some reviewers talk about the lack of information in this documentary. You will get some facts and statistics, but this documentary also creates a kind of feeling with the images you ll see. For example, it's hard to talk about loneliness. But the documentary is doing a good job of get a feeling of loneliness.

Another reviewer didn't get the point of the sperm-bank and the Swedish surgeon based in Ethiopia. The voice over will make some links, but sometimes you have make the links yourself. The sperm-bank was used to create a feeling: the sadness of it all. Instead of working hard for a relationship where you get to the point of trying to make a baby together, a man is masturbating alone in a white room and a girl is inseminating herself, also alone. Much more efficient, safe, secure etc. etc., but also boring and without the personal connection between two people.

The scenes of the surgeon in Ethiopia I find a bit too shocking myself. The scenes give you the feeling of the community who helps the ones in need. Instead of an anonymous ambulance who drives someone to the hospital, relatives, friends and/or neighbours lift the wounded person to the hospital. The ambulance is much more efficient and save, but the old fashion way brings a lot more bonding between people. The scene where the surgeon talks about the household stuff he used to operate, shows us the creativity that is needed to survive. And because in the west everything is so bureaucratic and written down in procedures, it's a lot more boring. To feel alive we need to be able to be creative in our lives. Not only in our free time, but also in our work. Healthcare is much better in the West but it comes with a price. Just like all the freedom and wealth we have.

Bare truth!

[adam-40089 · 10/10 · 18 July 2016]

The special thing about this documentary is it shows the side of Sweden which everybody try hard to hide from you. People in Sweden argument in many different ways that why the matter people try to get as far as possible from each other is good so basically people try to show that this is a positive and deliberate choice for good but the truth is it's the consequence of many problems in the society. It's interesting that everybody hates the fact that others try to get distance from them but at the same time they do the same. One of the root reasons for this type of behavior is the fear of getting hurt or betrayed by others even by those that shows a nice and harmless face. Another reason is the lack of tolerance for critique. Swedes are really bad at accepting criticism. Everybody think that he is perfect and nothing left for improvement so it anybody criticize them, it means that he just wants to take them down without any reason.

Correct but one-sided & crestfallen, from this Swedish perspective

[this_place · 4/10 · 6 January 2018]

This documentary palpates a well known problem here in Sweden. But one that isn't popular to spend resources on. Why? The reason might be similiar to how people sometimes vote for their dreams, as opposed to realistic outcomes. Simply put, people are busy living their lives and need more than nudging to be engaged in a problem that are actualized after retirement. I've been working in homecare-service (caring for the elderly in their homes) and isolation is definitely a significant problem amongst that population.

My issues with the one-sided nature of this documentary, stems from the lack of representation of the whole picture. Almost every scene seemed to be set up to visually invoke a sense of loneliness. Instead of portraying hipsters, inseminations and a single perspective from a doctor in Ethiophia, Gandini could've showed the positive side of life in Sweden, and more importantly explore possible solutions to emergent isolation in many urban socities.

Other problems with delayed discovery of deceased and the bureaucracy in the health sector, are systematic errors and I fail to see the basis of correlation to a solitary life.

A last note on the review by scissorbits ("Interesting for an immigrant in Sweden, explains a lot"), it was certainly intriguing to acquire a new frame of reference. And it touches on the current, and perhaps more acute, issue with integration. Sweden isn't socially barren, but it is a heavy challenge to make friends with the citizens, in this land of constricted groups of vikings.

Ideal modern family?!

[pavlemicko · 9/10 · 28 April 2022]

• At the international level, Sweden is seen as a perfect society, a model and a symbol of the highest achievements of human progress. The Swedish theory of love digs into the true nature of the Swedish lifestyle, exploring the existential black holes of a society that has created the most independent people in the world. The Swedish Theory of Love (2015) is a documentary by director Erik Gandini that deals with the study of idealized modern and individualistic Swedish society through different frameworks and experiences. Modern Sweden is considered an advanced society with a high standard of living, but does a high standard of living directly condition the happiness of an individual? Is it possible that a completely independent society in which human contact is reduced to a minimum, in which there is a growing trend of people dying alone, in which there is an increasing number of single mothers, is one of the "happiest" countries in the world. This documentary deals with these, but also with the questions of how all this came about.

• The Swedish theory of love begins with a story about the relationship between parents and children, men and women, which shows that relationships, contact and love (any kind of love) are harmful to the freedom of the individual. For that reason, in the Nordic country, separation and radical autonomy have been advocated for decades, where individuality as liberation from the other is the only way to be free and complete. With the sexual revolution, that is, the development of the process of in vitro fertilization, a woman can get pregnant in her home by injecting sperm with a syringe, which exceeds the standard sexual act. For those women who still lack human contact during a sexual act, a virtual reality VR option is offered in which a woman can connect with her donor and get closer emotionally. On the other hand, with the rise of individualism and obsession with achieving personal goals, modern Swedish society is losing out on socialization, families are breaking up, teenagers are leaving family homes early, and the elderly are dying alone. The term "Swedish love theory" comes from a movement in the 1970s that aimed to make the Swedish people completely independent of each other. The idea was that if you didn't have to depend on someone else, it would lead to the final form of existence.

• In this documentary, Ethiopia, where Dr. Eriksen lives and works, is presented as a contrast to life in Sweden. The contrast is great, and Dr. Eriksen describes it as someone who lived in Sweden most of his life and decided to meet another world. The economic abundance of a country like Sweden and others like Ethiopia is not comparable, so we will not even deal with that topic, but that does not have to be about happiness. He describes a family in Ethiopia that is collectivist, the elderly take care of grandchildren and stay in their homes until the end of their lives, if someone is sick, the family is there to help, the worries of an average family are reduced to mere existence and thinking about basic necessities. In contrast, sociologist Zygmunt Bauman argues that in Sweden, individualistic behavior has reduced the ability to socialize. He states that the problem is that when you reach a certain standard of living, all your existential problems disappear, society takes care of you, your bills are paid automatically, so it happens, as shown in the documentary, that a person dies and no one found about it for two years because all his bills were duly paid from the account on which he still had 100,000 euros left. When a person loses the problems he has to face, it does not make him happy, on the contrary, it leads him to direct misfortune and absolute boredom.

Very general and

[emdeewee · 5/10 · 26 November 2015]

I Just saw this documentary at IDFA in Amsterdam. I am as disappointed afterwards as intrigued as I was beforehand. This movie never really touches anything at all. To my mind it is vague, general, never precise, never dramatic, countless statistics and sad anecdotes notwithstanding; it shows stories of people lying deceased in their houses for years on end without anybody noticing (worth a full feature documentary of itself; then would it have gotten somewhere!); but it does nothing at all with this sad fact but pointing to it as a fact. We already know this happens. But I would like to see what a filmmaker makes of it, more than pointing out the existence of the fact.

It makes a trip to (I believe) Ethiopia to show the so-called opposite of Western countries, telling how people there take care of each other. But again, it does nothing more than point out the fact. It even just tells it, in voice over, or 'talking head'. I would love to be shown exactly, and deeply, how these things work, and how they are so different from what happens in Sweden. Don't just film a bunch of strangers carrying a friend to a hospital with a voice over doing the rest of the work.

It shows countless people alone in Sweden; on escalators, running through a forest, in the subway, etc. To me, it seemed to do all this without any clear idea of what it was trying to say. This is a movie not first about people, but about a subject, a subject having been chosen beforehand. That is what, to me, gives it its feel of being very general, and gratuitousness, about nothing and no-one in particular.

While this may be a matter of taste, I like to see it the other way around; you make a movie about someone, and it automatically will be about a subject too. The movie makes trips around Sweden and around the world that are gratuitous to the extent of annoyance: we see guys masturbating in a sperm-bank and we actually see sperm cells (somehow needed to tell something about family planning of single mothers that want to remain single), and that is supposed to be funny. But somehow, here it seemed to be out of place. I did not long for a comic or absurd note at all. We get a full blown view on the tumor in a girl's tongue in Ethiopia. Why? What did that contribute to anything? Most annoying of all was the part where this Swedish surgeon based in Ethiopia shows with what kinds of things he manages to operate (household stuff, wheel spokes). This got the audience laughing like hell, and in another context it would have gotten me too – but here it did not attribute anything to the investigation on loneliness whatsoever. I guess it had something to do with perfect organization in Sweden at the cost of having to improvise or something, but to my mind the movie did not do a great job of showing how that is shocking, dramatic, sad, or even interesting. It was a vague suggestion to the difference in lifestyles, and somehow this was related to loneliness too.

Also: once again I was reminded of the fact that arty documentaries can in fact use the same dramatic instruments as Hollywood movies: when it's sad, you hear sad music. When its threatening, you hear sound of threat.

I was about to stand up and leave, when darling and hero Zygmunt Bauman entered the stage. I listened to him respectfully and that was that.

Btw: I really liked Videocracy, so this was a big disappointment. Please come back and make a story about a particular someone, or someplace, and stick with it for 90 minutes. Try and take a closer at a subject instead of quickly flying over a landscape of generalities and anecdotes, of which it is unclear what they contribute precisely, and could have been a full blown docu all by themselves. The depth it will bring you will pay you back, I promise. And: there is no faster way to kill a story than to know what it is about beforehand (one of the Pixar rules of storytelling;-) ). That way it will never surprise you, because it will be caged from the beginning.